Saturday, June 11, 2011
Fancy Musings: You are being judged
As I was sitting by the pool this morning and doing my usual (sipping on a margarita, listening to music on my Iphone and people-watching), it dawned on me how I often I judge people by their appearance..
Examples of my thoughts this morning around the pool:
- The girl who carried an LV Monogram Canvas Neverfull: Hmm, new Money. She wants everyone to know she has a designer bag.
- The girl with a full face of makeup, big hoop earrings, bangles and statement necklace: Low self-esteem
- The guy with the big muscles who keep walking back and forth and flexing his pecs: Meathead.
Now some of these opinions are completely off-base and clearly, I was having way to much fun this morning... but I am always judging. I meet someone for the first time. I take a quick peek at their shoes. If its a girl and she is wearing Louboutins or Guccis, I definitely perceive her much differently than if she was wearing Birkenstocks. If she has chipped nail polish, another judgement. Bad makeup, ill-fitting clothes, frizzy hair - judge, JUDGE, J-U-D-G-E.
I am going to try to make myself feel better by blaming it on human nature to look at someone and form an opinion - be it consiously or sub-consiously. But at the end of the day, it really is kind of mean. I really am working on controlling my mean girl side.
And I am sure that I am not the only mean girl in the Fancy House, so if I judge, then you probably slip and judge sometimes as well. And IF I judge, and IF you judge, that also means someone is judging you at some point as well.
The scary part, in addition to all of this judging going on, is that you never know when you are going to bump into and be judged by Mr. Right or even worse, your ex and his new girlfriend... They are definitely going to judge. Do you want them to judge you in a baggy t-shirt, worn old flip flops and holey sweatpants?
Yikes.. sigh...crap....how dreadful!